1. Do Not Interfere In Others' Business Unless Asked.
Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often in
others' affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves
that our way is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic and
those who do not conform to our thinking must be criticized and
steered to the right direction, our direction. This thinking denies
the existence of individuality and consequently the existence of God.
God has created each one of us in a unique way. No two human beings
can think or act in exactly the same way. All men or women act the
way they do because God within them prompts them that way. There is
God to look after everything. Why are you bothered? Mind your own
business and you will keep your peace.
2. Forgive And Forget.
This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often develop ill
feelings inside our heart for the person who insults us or harms us.
We nurture grievances. This in turn results in loss of sleep,
development of stomach ulcers, and high blood pressure. This insult
or injury was done once, but nourishing of grievance goes on forever
by constantly remembering it. Get over this bad habit. Believe in the
justice of God and the doctrine of destiny. Let Him judge the act of
the one who insulted you. Life is too short to waste in such trifles.
Forgive, Forget, and march on. Love flourishes in giving and
3. Do Not Be Jealous.
We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind.
You know that you work harder than your colleagues in the office, but
sometimes they get promotions; you do not. You started a business
several years ago, but you are not as successful as your neighbor
whose business is only one year old. There are several examples like
these in everyday life. Should you be jealous? No. Remember
everybody's life is shaped by his/her destiny, which has now become
his/her reality. If you are destined to be rich, nothing in the world
can stop you. If you are not so destined, no one can help you either.
Nothing will be gained by blaming others for your misfortune.
Jealousy will not get you anywhere; it will only take away your peace
4. Change Yourself According To The Environment.
If you try to change the environment single-handedly, the chances are
you will fail. Instead, change yourself to suit your environment. As
you do this, even the environment, which has been unfriendly to you,
will mysteriously change and seem congenial and harmonious.
5. Do Not Bite Off More Than You Can Chew.
This maxim needs to be remembered constantly. We often tend to take
more responsibilities than we are capable of carrying out. This is
done to satisfy our ego. Know your limitations. Why take on
additional loads that may create more worries? You cannot gain peace
of mind by expanding your external activities. Reduce your material
engagements and spend time in prayer, introspection and meditation.
This will reduce those thoughts in your mind that make you rest less.
Uncluttered mind will produce greater peace of mind.
6. Meditate Regularly.
Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing thoughts. This
is the highest state of peace of mind. Try and experience it
yourself. If you meditate earnestly for half an hour everyday, your
mind will tend to become peaceful during the remaining twenty-three
and half-hours. Your mind will not be easily disturbed as it was
before. You would benefit by gradually increasing the period of daily
meditation. You may think that this will interfere with your daily
work. On the contrary, this will increase your efficiency and you
will be able to produce better results in less time.
6. Never Leave The Mind Vacant.
An empty mind is the devil's workshop. All evil actions start in the
vacant mind. Keep your mind occupied in something positive, something
worthwhile. Actively follow a hobby. Do something that holds your
interest. You must decide what you value more: money or peace of
mind. Your hobby, like social work or religious work, may not always
earn you more money, but you will have a sense of fulfillment and
achievement. Even when you are resting physically, occupy yourself in healthy reading or mental chanting of God's name.